Project Social Life

Project Social Life

You know what's the biggest challenge when starting over? Starting over your social life as a single person while most people you know still connects you with the other ex-half. There are some ways of dealing with that.

E.g. stop seeing everyone, crawl under the blanket and wait for everybody to come and get you. Like  when you were five and your little brother took up all the attention in the room. Actually I've been there and done that. Crawling under the blanket and waiting. Of course there was no result as well, it is quite obvious nobody starts calling you asking if you are alive when it is so obvious you are and moreover - you can be perceived as if you do not wish to be disturbed or even as if you do not care.

Getting up from that couch was the biggest challenge I have had to make since my starting-over.

The second challenge, the phase I am going through right now, is to learn you have to tell people you want to meet with them and then you actually have to meet with them. It really is harder than you may think. But it was doable.

The first step in my social life project has been taken. I have organized my birthday party yesterday and there were those who came, more than I have expected. I was not alone as I had been thinking for so long and it felt so good to be with people again. So good that I felt even better when the party was over and I was left alone with silence. For the first time since I moved out I enjoyed it - being alone. Maybe because I knew I was not.